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Perspective Matters

Focus Scripture: 1 Corinthians 7:29-31

January 21 – 3rd Sunday After Epiphany

Perspective Matters

What does it feel like when someone discounts your feelings? What might you say when someone responds to your excitement or concern with some negative or dismissive comment? It does not feel good, right?

Oh, you just got married? Well, that’s not going to last long.

You are excited about that promotion at work? Curb your enthusiasm.

You are mourning the death of a loved one? Get over it.


Just considering this might be getting you a little angry or stressed, right? Maybe you are recalling a time when that happened. After all, most of us have experienced encounters in our lives when people just were not getting where we were coming from. Their empathy was lacking, they were insensitive or worse, and it made us feel bad.

It would be easy to take this as Paul’s meaning in the letter to the church at Corinth. The time is short! Don’t get too involved in your life. The present form of the world is passing away. Really? You’re getting married?

But there are two small words we need to consider: as if. If we make the mistake of taking this message without context, we could miss out on the joys of life and the opportunities to help and be helped through our struggles, disappointment, and grief. That is not what God has in mind for us.

This is where perspective matters. As Paul was writing this letter, and in this chapter in particular, we clearly feel that something was not right. When we look back at the history of the time, we can understand how that was true. The Roman Empire was about to go through convulsions, including the fire that burned Rome and was blamed on Christians, so it is likely that the people living at the time sensed something was wrong. As we have seen throughout history, there are often warning signs and years, if not decades, that pass before the violence and upheaval begin. Combined with the challenges in the church at Corinth, it is fair to speculate that Paul and other leaders were feeling the tension.

We can look at this in our current time and still learn from it. Again, perspective matters.

When Paul told the Corinthians that time was short, he was right. Jerusalem was soon to fall. Everything was changing. Be ready.

In our current time, we can also say that time is short, especially when we adopt an eternal perspective, both for ourselves and others. Tomorrow is not guaranteed. As the Psalmist wrote, we are but a breath (Psalm 62:9). We must be ready to come face-to-face with our creator. When we have been called to follow Christ, we must respond. The grace of God requires a reaction.

This is where perspective matters. We must engage in all parts of our lives, those that bring us joy and those that bring us pain. That is part of living. But ahead of all that, we must place our relationship with our creator on a higher plane. Life is usually not about binary choices. Two things can happen concurrently; two things can be true. We can be serving God and living our lives at the same time. God does not expect or require us to disregard our life concerns, not at all. We can engage in life while also living as if we are children of God, because we are.

Consider this: When the Pharisees approached Jesus and asked him about the greatest commandments, Jesus replied, in Matthew 22:37-40,

“‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the greatest and first commandment. And a second is like it: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ On these two commandments hang all the Law and the Prophets.”

Had the concerns of others been unimportant, if our own concerns were inconsequential, Jesus would have told us to ignore others, disregard ourselves, and just focus on God. But that was not the message.

We are told to love our neighbors as ourselves, not instead of ourselves. Caring and concern is not a pie: If you get more, that does not mean that I get less. If I love and serve God, that does not take away from the caring I have for myself and others. The pie just gets bigger.

God lived among us as the incarnated Christ and fully understands what we need. God knows what we need to be fulfilled. And God has placed us in a position just a little lower than angels. What are people, we read in Psalm chapter 8? We, all of us, are just a little lower than angels. We are not disregarded by our creator.

Perspective matters. Follow me here. If we have been made just a little lower than angels and in God’s image, and if all the law hangs on loving God and loving neighbors as ourselves – as ourselves – it follows that our feelings, our activities, our joys, and our sorrows all matter. They are not to be disregarded or discounted. God does not ignore our feelings, nor should we.

Let’s look at just one statement. Paul wrote that if we are mourning, we should live as if we are not. But Jesus said, in Matthew chapter 5, that those who mourn are blessed, for they shall be comforted.

Circling back to the point that God knows what we feel, we need to look no further than Jesus’s reaction when his friend, Lazarus, died. “Jesus wept.” Yes, Jesus mourned.

Jesus is not a hypocrite. Jesus would not model a behavior that is alright for him but not acceptable for us. On the contrary, Jesus was the perfect human and is God. So if Jesus wept, we should weep. We are humans made in God’s image, and that includes all the emotions, all the feels, that go with it.

Finally, let’s understand what this means relative to our lives in Christian community and the wider community beyond the church. As we are the hands and feet of Christ, the living stones of the Church, we also become the answer to prayer when we love our neighbors as ourselves.

We love each other and show sympathy during times of loss. When others experience success, we share in their joy. We are happy for them and celebrate with them. We are not envious.

In the end, perspective matters. We are saved children of God, people for whom time is short, and people who are called to make disciples for Jesus Christ, a task also for which time is short. So let’s not disregard that point.

With that in mind, though, we are also fully human, as was Christ. We cannot and should not disregard our feelings, from pain to joy. Far from it. Let us be productive and purposeful while also enjoying all the good things God has given us. Keep your thoughts on God, with an eternal perspective, while being in full community with others and loving yourself and caring for yourself enough so you can do all these other things. We cannot pour our caring into others when we ourselves are empty.

Even Jesus went off to have quiet time alone in prayer. He slept. He ate. God knows what we need, and God loves you and me as God’s children. Keep that balance, that perspective, as God’s created, beloved children made just a little lower than angels. Amen.

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